Last week I shared a tool to identify and redeem your shadow, an aspect of yourself that you'd rather pretend isn't there. Today we'll explore another method for balancing and reintegrating your "undesirable" parts into your psyche.
First, some background. The theory behind this method comes from a system called RYSE, which was introduced to me by our fabulous babysitter who is also a gifted healer, Steph.
In studying IFS therapy, we can learn that we all have parts, or aspects of our personality, that possess different emotions and impulses. Just like members of any family or group environment, these parts can either work together harmoniously, or they can become polarized. When they're polarized - which becomes apparent when our behavior becomes erratic), the parts that have become polarized need to be brought back into balance.
RYSE shows us that each personality part has a polar opposite. The positive pole of a part has "desirable" qualities and the negative pole is responsible for manifesting those qualities. But, when that part becomes unbalanced, the negative pole results in a shadow aspect that can flare up and wreak havoc.
I'll walk you through a quick way to reintegrate the shadow, using last week's example of my angry part.
First, it's helpful to get a sense of who that part is. My angry aspect looked like a bitter middle aged man with a huge gut named Mario (no offense intended to anyone who might have that name, that's just what came to me!).
Then you can ask for its polar opposite to step forward. The polar opposite of angry Mario was a beautiful and powerful woman who radiated joy. I didn't get a name for her, and I didn't push it.
Next, clear and transmute both parts. There's much more to this step, and I'll be posting a chakra clearing audio soon. But for now, envision yourself surrounded by a bubble of bright white light, and intend for that light to clear each part, then intend to transmute it, releasing and transforming any trapped energy.
Then merge both parts. See them coming together inside yourself, and feel a spark of energy at your solar plexus chakra as they meet. You may also experience a current of energy running up your spine. Know that once they are fully merged the positive aspect will clear the negative aspect, so visualize more energy coming off the newly merged part and being transmuted.
Voila, you're done. Like the first shadow method I shared, you can use this method alone or in combination with the other. Whatever works for you is best.