We all have conflict in our lives. It’s part of what we signed up for, whether we’re conscious of it or not.
Why would we sign up for conflict? It’s a pathway to grow as a person. When life is a smooth ride, we might enjoy ourselves, but through conflict we learn more about who we are, how we react, and what subconscious programs might be running underneath the calm surface we project to the world.
Do you have one person in your life who pushes all your buttons? The person who maybe you fantasized about sending off to a desert island somewhere… forever?
I’ll tell you a secret about that person. S/he’s doing you a favor. Yup, that’s right. The person with all those annoying ways about them, who makes you so mad? The person who is the most critical of you? They are holding up a mirror to the parts of yourself that you hide away from everyone – even from yourself.
The only way to get past such conflicts is to journey through them. That means taking those awful feelings you have about yourself and the other person and converting them into spiritual capital.
A client came to me feeling awful. She was trying to work through a conflict with her sister, who turned on her and called her all sorts of ugly names.
We took all of those names, and worked through a cutting edge process called Burning truth therapy. Burning truth focuses on those little “truths” – the ones that we’ve been keeping at arm’s length about parts of our personalities we’d rather not face. By facing down and accepting those scary names and ideas that her sister had mirrored to her, my client was able to burn away the emotional baggage that had been holding those programs in place.
In other words, once we come to accept that we might be mean, hurtful, judgmental, etc, those qualities cease to have a hold over us. Having faced down our worst fears about who we are – and trust me, those qualities have nothing to do with who you Truly are, just who you have toyed with being while playing small – we are free to release them and step into a bigger, kinder role.
My client had spent so much time being afraid of owning those truths about who she had been that they literally owned her. She had no control over when they showed up because she wasn’t conscious of their home inside of her.
Once she got conscious about what little personality parts were playing inside her, she was able to release them and the drama that came with them.
Today, she is empowered with a clearer, cleaner sense of who she is. Whether or not she works things out with her sister, she is no longer confused about who she is or why the conflict arose. In fact, she sees it as one of the greatest gifts in her life. Now that’s incredible.
One of the laws of the universe is that what we put out, we get back. When we want to feel loved, we share our love with others.
Your birthday is a powerful time to bring into your life what you desire. You can harness the energy of this day by setting intentions for what you plan to create. It's also a powerful time to give to others.
As my birthday gift to you, please enjoy the gift of self-love. This love-bath meditation has been described as deeply comforting, reassuring and luxurious.
Here's your love bath! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kL64izdt7hU
If you enjoyed this, please share your feedback in the comments! I always love to hear about your experiences. Thank you!
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Yesterday, I learned about the still point.
This amazing space is used by craniosacral therapists and osteopaths, and can be leveraged to release old, stuck patterns in the body.
For those who practice yoga, many achieve this still point during savasana, the final relaxation after the active portion of the yoga class.
From the still point, if you observe your body, you'll notice that tension melts away. Pain is unrecognizable. All that exists is the joy of the present moment.
The still point can be accessed through the breath. Here's a quick tool to get there.
Take in a deep breath, and pause at the top of your breath. Drop into the stillness that exists there. Scan your body and take note of any and all sensations that appear. You can release your breath, and continue to breathe, and remain in this still space.
If you find yourself shifting out of this still space, which will typically continue to happen until you've had lots of experiences of staying in that space, just take another deep breath, and sink into the still space at the top of it. The more you note your physical sensations, the more you easily can recognize and shift yourself back into that place.
How did this tool work for you? What was the still space like for you? Please share your experiences below. I'd love to hear your thoughts.