Many of us have been raised to view "negative" emotions as inappropriate or unhelpful. As a result, we develop all sorts of tools to avoid or deny our feelings. Yet being present to them is such a rich experience that it's worth gaining some proficiency.
Also, denying our feelings doesn't make them go away. In fact, that's where our issues begin. Stuck emotions take root in our psyches and in our energetic bodies, and those feelings will keep resurfacing until we address them.
Feelings that are resisted or buried become energy blocks. These blocks can hold us back in our relationships and our way of being in the world. They affect virtually every area of our lives - health, professional, financial, romantic, familial, etc.
Blocks can become unstuck through repeated mindfulness exercises that involve noticing and welcoming emotions as they arise. While emotions may seem to be new or spontaneous, almost every emotion we experience is an echo of a past emotion, and it is energetically linked to that long chain of emotion, back to the first time we blocked it.
For those of you who are self-motivated, here's a tool you can use to excavate your old stuck feelings.
1. Notice where in your body it is. If you're visual, you may get an image of where it is. If you're more kinesthetic you may actually notice a tightness, ache or other form of discomfort. Or you may have an idea jump into your head.
2. Ask yourself, what shape is it? What color is it? How heavy is it? Don't worry if your answers are right or wrong, there's no such thing. Just go with your first instinct.
3. Observe the feelings. See how they impact you. The act of observing is powerful because the observer in each of us is our God consciousness. That quiet observer - not judge, but witness - is where your essence lies.
4. If step #3 doesn't seem to be "working" for you, intend to go to the center of the feelings. Go to the place in your body where they stem from and witness what's there. Ask if there's a lesson for you.
5. Step back into the observer role and witness your energy. As you watch it, just sit with any additional feelings that might arise. You'll find when you've really hit that sweet spot that watching your feelings will feel delicious, like an activity that you want to return to again and again. You'll actually be grateful you had them!
Working individually can be very effective, assuming you have the time and diligence to tune in. I've found that releasing such blocks is much faster with the presence of a skilled coach. I intuitively guide clients to the source of their withholding, using questions and instructions to facilitate your path to release.
Did you know that there are bee shamans? Healers have worked with bees for thousands of years. Bees are mystical creatures who give life to our food and bring honey, a nectar of the gods to our tables. There are many ways to work with bees as healers and mystics. We'll go into that another day. Today we'll focus on drawing their magic into our chakra system.
This beautiful meditation came to me while practicing yoga today, just in time for savasana, the final relaxation. It's a great tool to use while meditating lying down, and it can also be used while sitting up.
Bee Chakra Activation:
Lie down and relax with some deep belly breaths. Picture a red flower growing out of your root chakra, starting at the base of your spine. See it grow tall and spread its beautiful red petals. Now imagine yourself growing out of your base chakra and merging into this flower. Flowers have auras; feel your aura blending with the flower's aura and drink in its vibrant energy. Visualize your energetic field turning red as you merge with this flower's energy. The energy of the red chakra infuses you with a sense of calm and security.
Now watch a vibrant golden honeybee approach. He drops golden pollen above the center of your red flower. The pollen is golden energy, glimmering like fairy dust, and as it merges with your red aura it catches fire and glows golden. Feel your aura come alive, shooting energy down through the flower stem and activating your base chakra. Know that the bee's pollen has come straight from the heavens. As it cleanses and heals your root chakra your energy is filled with a deep understanding of abundance.
Now picture an orange flower growing out of your sacral chakra. Merge with its orange glow and feel a sense of passion and creativity overcome you. Visualize the bee visiting with his gift of pollen and feel him fill your aura with golden light. As the gold reaches down toward your sacral chakra, cleansing and activating it, feel yourself becoming one with all of creation.
Visualize a yellow flower growing from your solar plexus. Merge with its yellow light and feel a sense of strength and confidence. See the honeybee dropping beautiful golden pollen and feel him awaken your aura with golden light. As the gold reaches down toward your solar plexus chakra, cleansing and activating it, feel yourself rooted firmly at the center of the universe.
Now picture a green flower growing out of your heart chakra. Merge with its emerald glow and feel love radiate through you. Visualize the honeybee dropping his sparkling powder and feel it electrify your aura with golden light. As the gold reaches down toward your heart, cleansing and activating it, feel your love expand to include all of creation.
Imagine a light blue flower growing out of your throat chakra. Merge with its soft blue glow and feel yourself connected to your inner expression. See the bee drop golden pollen and feel it charge your aura with golden light. As the gold reaches down toward your throat, cleansing and activating it, feel your connection to the unique soul vibration that makes you who you truly are.
Visualize an indigo blue flower growing from your third eye chakra. Merge with its indigo light and feel a yourself filled with inspiration. Visualize the honeybee dropping beautiful golden pollen and feel it enliven your aura with golden light. As the gold connects to your third eye chakra, cleansing and activating it, feel your awareness expand to contain all of creation.
Imagine a white lotus flower growing out of the top of your head, from your crown chakra. Merge with its pure white glow and feel yourself connected to divine guidance. See the bee drop golden pollen and feel it charge your aura with golden light. As the gold reaches your crown chakra, cleansing and activating it, become aware of yourself as an inextricable part of the divine presence, the all-that-is.
Take several deep, integrating breaths. As you breathe in, watch the golden light swell up, and as you breathe out feel it return to you and grow even brighter. Savor the feeling of aliveness that the bees have sparked in your energetic being. Send the golden light out to all of the bees in an act of love and gratitude. You have now activated your seven primary chakras with the light of the bees and the flowers. As you go out into the world, know that you will now resonate with them on a deeper level. Make it a point to look for signs of love and connection from them as you go about your days.
Those of us who live in career-driven societies are groomed from a young age to fulfill our potential. Depending on who we are that may mean making a certain salary, achieving a management position, raising a family, or doing the work we feel called to do. No matter what route we choose, an essential part of the human experience is that we stumble on our path to fulfillment.
Many of us have a vague idea of what energy blocks are, and yet energy blocks are the inner obstacles that stand in everyone's way. An energy block is a story that we've integrated into our personality. It affects our thoughts and actions, and therefore shapes our results.
The human energy field functions like a computer. It starts out wide open, blank, with tremendous potential and power available. As we move through life, we incorporate and code our experiences into our energy field in ways that either limit or expand our potential.
It’s not the experiences that code directly into our energy fields. Rather, it’s our interpretation of them that gets incorporated. In other words, we write the code. That’s why a person like Oprah was able to overcome extreme poverty and step into her power. She experienced childhood struggles, yet she translated her experience uniquely. She wrote her personal code in a way that used her past not as a blueprint for her future, but as a motivator to succeed. We all have the power to consciously shape our internal coding, by shifting our perspective.
What happens when we’ve already coded our experiences in a way that hinders our potential? Don't worry! We're all in the same boat to some degree, and it's not too late to make meaningful changes. Initially, doing the work alone can be difficult, since most of us haven’t yet learned to identify, delete and rescript our code.
Learning internal recoding is accessible, once you gain some practice in the methodology. The key ingredients are distancing yourself from your drama, at least for little bursts of time, identifying the major theme in the story you've been telling yourself, and seeing how it's holding you back. At that point you can make the conscious decision to shift to a story that's more beneficial for you, and step into the feeling state of that new story. The act of deciding to shift the story hinges on taking its power away by journeying to the heart of your fears about that story. For those who have been doing inner work their whole lives, or are particularly open, it's a step that could take just an instant. For others, garnering the courage to make that leap may take longer.
When do we need help with this process? Some of us need help stepping back to see the big picture. some of us need help finding our false stories and seeing their impact on our lives. Others of us see the deception yet need assistance finding the motivation or being guided down the path to release it.
My unique talent is that I can see through your behavior patterns to the underlying code. I see the essence that makes you who you are and the code that you’ve written to cover that up. I use powerful visualization tools to help you delete the old code, and access the unlimited potential that your unique inherent code allows.
The path to inner freedom is filled with adventure - standing up to fears, slaying inner demons, and finding hidden treasure. It's rich and mysterious and ultimately guides us back to a place we distinctly recognize as home. It can be intimidating to get started but it's well worth the effort.